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Sunday, March 2, 2014

Marriage is a Spiritual Contract

Many of you probably don't want to hear this, especially the single folks, but you think that being single is a license to sleep with anyone you want, until you've found the right person.  Of course, publicly, you might refer to it as "dating" or "going out", mainly because no one is permitted to assume it's physical, without coming across judgmental.  But people who have multiple sexual partners increase their risk for sexually transmitted diseases and certain cancers, later in life.  Also, premarital sex is associated with increased risks of divorce and depression.

In the Bible, the concept of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" does not exist.  There were single individuals, widows, divorced, married and betrothed to be married.  Outside of that were adulterers, fornicators, sodomites, whores and whoremongers.  You get the picture.

Satan's world made up "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" in the modern era.  From there, unlawful sex outside of marriage spread based on the rules of men, not GOD.  In our FATHER's eyes, the act of sexual intercourse between a man and woman is the spiritual contract of marriage.

Some of the strongest bonds in relationships, whether in friendship or intimacy, are formed in young adulthood.  Promiscuity is not part of that equation, because it's not normal or healthy.  A healthy relationship of any kind is built, over time, on loyalty and trust.

Promiscuity is a form of sex addiction.  Just like a drug, there's a high, low, emptiness and search for another fix.  You cannot disconnect from sex, because it's never meaningless.  It's the closest union that you can experience with a person of the opposite sex, for it involves the heart, mind, spirit and flesh.  Natural sexual passion is balanced, while lust is unquenchable.  Lust controls a person and not the other way around.

Any sexual activity outside of a marriage (between a man and woman) is unlawful.  If you're in a monogamous sexual relationship with your partner, you're married to that person.  You can call him your "boyfriend", or her your "girlfriend", but the person is in fact your spouse.  Carnal people play by carnal rules, which change over time, but spiritual laws never change.  GOD's laws are perfect and they don't change for man.

A marriage certificate serves as an official secular record and concerns the laws of the land that you live in.  It's not much different than a birth, or death, certificate, for it's importance is limited to your flesh life in the world system.  But marriage is more spiritual than it is worldly.  It's recognition and status in the eyes of ALMIGHTY GOD is far greater in importance than what's recognized by men.

Sex outside marriage is never free, remember that.  When it's outside a true marriage, it always comes with a price.  So what we have today is millions of people that claim to be single (never married), by the laws of the land, but are actually married or have been married.  You cannot bend spiritual laws, it just doesn't work that way.  For example, if your country someday makes both homosexual marriage and abortion legal, it doesn't make them right.  A spiritual law does not change with man's law.  You can be doing something wrong, that is within the laws of your land, but it doesn't mean that it's no longer a sin and is right with GOD.

If a prostitute told you that her dream was to marry a good man, raise a family, live in a nice house with a white picket fence, etc, and be a housewife or have a normal career, what would you think?  Wouldn't she be giving a conficting message?  Because her path doesn't align with her dream and therefore the dream will be difficult, if not impossible, to attain going in her present direction.

People can have a tendency to make up the rules as they go along... you know, the boss that changes rules, within his (or her) company, seemingly day to day, so he doesn't look and sound like a hypocrite or liar to his employees.  Another fine example is the double standard or individuals, often in positions of power, that think the rules and laws that apply to everyone else don't apply to them... that they are above the law.  You can't make up the rules as you go along, especially when it hurts others.  You can't be double minded and stable at the same time.  Whether you lie to yourself or someone else, it's still a lie. 

The feeling you get after a break up from a sexual relationship... that feeling is divorce, not just break-up blues.  What you might be ignoring is your spirit telling you that something is wrong.  You might feel this strong sense of attachment to someone after sleeping with him, or her, or you automatically feel that you are together as a couple.  It might be an empty feeling inside, in which you try and resolve by sleeping with the next person.  What you fail to realize is the spiritual law and aspect of marriage.  When you sleep with a person, you have actually entered into a spiritual contract of marriage with that person.  This contract is actually more serious than a written one recognized by your state or country.

This contract is recognized by GOD Himself.  Look back on your experiences, and tell me there wasn't any form of consequence or problem as a result of casual sex, or just going from relationship to relationship.  You think it was a one night stand... you leave it at that and date and sleep with the next person you like.  Guess what?  You just divorced and remarried... wondering why there are problems in your life and you can't seem to find the right person?

You might believe that by not signing that piece of paper, the marriage certificate, you are free from commitment and marriage.  However, GOD's WORD states differently.

Genesis 2:24  "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."

Mark 10:6-8  "But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.  For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh."

1 Corinthians 6:16-18  "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."

So how does two become one flesh?  When they join together.  The offspring from the marriage is also one flesh, because children share the genes of their parents.  It does not state in GOD's WORD that Adam and Eve signed a piece of paper.  When Adam "knew Eve his wife", in GOD's eyes, they were married.  In Biblical times, when a man spreads his skirt over a woman, he's taken her as his wife.

Ruth 3:9  "And he said, Who art thou? And she answered, I am Ruth thine handmaid: spread therefore thy skirt over thine handmaid; for thou art a near kinsman."

It's not uncommon to hear that you have to test things out or gain experience from having more relationships.  The only experience that you will be gaining is that of multiple divorces.  Life is short; we grow up and old rather quickly.  The more your relationship experiences (first date, first kiss and just about every experience that you share with a partner) are spread out among various partners, the less your experiences are concentrated with one person.  This is a fact because you certainly don't intend to fill in your spouse with many of those details.

Yes, there are people that will tell you that everything worked out for the better and they're happily married now, but it's not the case for everyone.  If you're not one of those fortunate people, it's not too late to change.  Ask GOD for help, guidance as well as the will and courage to make a permanent change.  Repent in Jesus Name and move forward.  That's the beauty of CHRISTianity... CHRIST forgives.  Put that area of your life, as well as every part of your life, in His loving Hands.  Have CHRIST, the LORD of your life, lead, help and point you in the right direction.  A soulmate is someone that GOD chose for you... not someone that came by chance.  Wouldn't you rather be with someone that your FATHER in Heaven chose just for you, than going from one relationship to another, hoping the next one is right?

You'll never find a perfect spouse or friend in this world, neither will you ever be a perfect spouse or friend to others.  Back in the 1980s and early 90s, the media dynasty heavily promoted songs and movies about love and friendships.  The hidden agenda was to promote the worship of relationships, such as lovers and best friends.  GOD was intentionally left out of the equation and true love was based on human relationships, instead of Christ.  People bought into the idea of searching for the perfect mate or friends, turning marriage and relationships, between people, into a religion.  A spouse, or the search for one, should not become an idol or person of worship.  You don't need a spouse to make your life complete, you need Jesus.  When you put any relationship, whether with a person or thing, before your relationship with GOD, you'll create a host of problems in your life.  Only Jesus is perfect and it requires a perfect person to fit the role of a perfect friend.  And if you're blessed with a spouse, don't expect your mate to be perfect, because you certainly aren't yourself.

On a deeper spiritual level,

Ephesians 5:28-32  "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church."

The LORD JESUS CHRIST loves and protects His bride.  He will protect you because you are part of that body of CHRIST, called the Church.  Christ's love and care for you is as close as any man, or woman, who cares for their spouse.  Believe it because it's His Promise.

ALMIGHTY GOD married Jerusalem...

Ezekiel 16:8  "Now when I passed by thee, and looked upon thee, behold, thy time was the time of love; and I spread my skirt over thee, and covered thy nakedness: yea, I sware unto thee, and entered into a covenant with thee, saith the Lord God, and thou becamest mine."

A quote from the movie, Vanilla Sky, "Don't you know that when you sleep with someone, your body makes a promise whether you do or not!"

Mr baptist.